#67 Let your plans and needs together find out the path for you.
Often when we get stuck in our life or unable to decide on which option to act upon or our actions not driving the required results, just take a step back and let your plans and needs work for you.
My cousin is prepping for her competitive exam and also working alongside a consulting firm. Last week, she was so disheartened over the call that she is unable to manage and plan everything perfectly. She is not able to give her best shot at any of the two things she had to do. As an elder sister and also as an experienced professional, I could console her and give her tips on how she could manage and deliver her best efforts at both places.
But instead of doing it- I said just don’t do any of the above. Just chill and enjoy. She was kind of annoyed even more and might have thought of me as a stupid person giving crazy advice. And I am sure those of you who are in a similar spot right now would also be sharing the same as her.
Guess what? I have tried this all my life whenever I am stuck with this or that situation. It has always brought up more than what we think. Read on…
We all are running to grab the maximum and in the urge of having everything in this materialistic world, we have forgotten to live our own lives. How incredulous we all become sometimes. We think we are credulous enough to handle the happenings around us but somewhere inside our hearts, we know that we can’t, no matter how hard we try. This is usually felt only when we need something. Till the time the need doesn’t arise, we console, we remain calm but when that need becomes a priority or let’s say a requirement then all the time that is the only thing that keeps us impatient. That impatience makes us so obsessive that we couldn’t make ourselves see the exciting things around us.
What to say about general people, let me elaborate on my experience- When it was my last days at work before going on sabbatical leaves. I was happy that finally the leaves are granted and now I can plan my studies accordingly. But what bothered me more was going and working during that period. Everything was normal around me but there was something that was not normal, some thoughts that were striking my head time and again and whenever I got time like travelling time which I used to spend reading, I was irritated. I tried to figure it out but couldn’t do what exactly was it.
Was it the work and deadlines that made me quite irritated or the thought of no mood of work when I was aware that I would no longer be here or it was the agitation of not being able to achieve daily study targets due to work and tiredness?
And those last ten days were like a month and then an idea came to my mind. That idea had two sections: one was that I would not study for those ten days but rather would spend them relaxing in case I have nothing to do and the second was I would complete all my work before leaving the project. Implementation was not easy but it wasn’t too hard to come out of the trapped thoughts that keep bothering you sometimes. Interestingly, every day was different and there was so much to look around which we miss when we are already preoccupied either with work, thoughts or some feelings.
If we simply try to give away that thought for which we can’t do something about it, that makes our mind space free to absorb new things and we can be more happier and satisfied no matter what the situations are. What happens is that when you leave those thoughts to come out and play themselves, they don’t come out and with time they are subordinated with new thoughts. The way I see it: Such situations have no role to play in our lives, they just come up to test our perseverance.
There can’t be a perfect ending every time. What is the point if there are no misfits, no flaws and if everything is so perfect and so neat then don’t you think life would be so predictable? After all, situations and the courage to surpass them in their way is the key that makes every person unique on his terms.
The key to getting ahead in life is simple and if you get stuck at any point, take a step back and see what is happening around you. Plan and need come hand in hand. If there is no need, then no planning is required. But trust me if the need is so important then we don’t need to worry, time and planning will coincide for a better way to deal with the need.